Saturday, October 17, 2009

Recapping the call

I didn't mean to wait so long to update! Sorry for leaving some of you hanging about the call with N on Wednesday.

It went SO well. We spoke for 30 minutes and it was comfortable, sweet, and just really reassuring. I was really amazed at how SHE was putting ME at ease and her maturity level was so high during the call. Especially because I was nervous when we first started talking and I just started spouting random pieces of info about Colt and laughing this really weird nervous laugh. She was patient and listened, then brought me back around to what the call was really about. Thinking back on it, I'm just really impressed.

She told me that when she first read my letter that we were expecting a baby, she started to cry because she was so scared that it meant things would change. Our feelings would Colt would somehow be lessened with the addition of a biological baby. But you could tell she already KNEW that wasn't the case, the logic was telling her that it would be no different. But her heart just wanted to hear me say it.

It's important to stop here and let you know I didn't cry one time during the call. Go Me!

Remember how I said in the last post that her family landscape was changing? I think it's ok to go ahead and say what that means because it's pretty crazy actually. She's getting married next weekend...and she's expecting a baby girl on March 6th, which is 12 days after our baby boy is due. There are so many things that have gone through my head on this one, but the one that stands out is that it makes me feel really at peace knowing that no matter where Colt was, he'd be a big brother at 14 months old.

She told me how nervous she was to tell me that she was pregnant again. I told her I thought it was funny that we were both so scared to tell each other basically the same news! And it's wonderful news, and it means more precious babies and we were both so scared.

We talked a lot about her fiance and how much he looks forward to seeing Colt's pictures and how excited he is to be a dad. We talked about getting together for our next visit. She said over and over how thankful she was to have contact, I told her how much we wanted to hear from her and stay in contact.

It was perfect.

Hopefully we'll go visit in the next month or so, as Colt gets closer to his one-year birthday. And now that we are both comfortable with direct contact, maybe we'll hear from her more often. She's pretty awesome.

So...the call went great! Thanks for your prayers!


Mountain Girl said...

You may not have cried, but I got tears in my eyes reading about how Colt would be a big brother either way, how you and birth mom will both be having babies at the same time and how sweet she was to you. I am so happy for you and your family - your WHOLE family!

Anonymous said...

That is so cool! I'm so happy for you that it was a great experience and also a comfort for you.

Becky said...

So thankful it went well for you both!!

Allison said...

WOW, you're NOT going to believe this, but I got married 8 months after MY adoption, and the babies are the exact same age apart...14 months! I have to say, I had a lot of the same feelings that your birthmommy had, about telling the parents that adopted my baby. They are just as awesome as you and you husband are, though, and were very happy and excited for me and my husband. If she were to get pregnant, I would be just as happy for her. Unfortunately, it's impossible for her, but if it weren't, I can honestly say I would be happy for her. I wish I could give both you and N a big hug!

hope548 said...

I am so glad the call went well and that you are both at ease now. That is amazing you're both having babies and Colt will be a big brother two times over!

Leah said...

So happy the call went well. :-D

Hoping for a Miracle~~ said...

What a great post! Its great to hear that you both were able to share what is happening in your lives, be at ease with each other and know that everyone is happy in their lives. I am so glad you were able to let her know that Colt will always be loved and that will not ever change just because you are pregnant. I'm so happy for your family!! And I can't believe Colt is getting so close to being a year old...he is just so cute!!