Friday, October 02, 2009

Because I Read Tabloid Magazines

I spent most of the week in the Sacramento-area, enjoying their food and their restaurants with patios where people actually sit and eat without their hair and napkins blowing in their face. It was Heaven.

I also had what turned out to be a surprisingly emotional day yesterday for me, and I wasn't expecting it. I'm not sure when or if I'll be ready to talk about it...but basically I'm looking for any suggestions of blogs to read or online communities of people who have adopted and then (CLICHE ALERT) gotten pregnant. I can't find much out there. When we were going through infertility, I found so many blogs of people that inspired me and understood my journey, same thing when we were adopting. I find myself once again to be in a place where not a lot of people in my real everyday life can understand the range of emotions and questions and feelings I have...if you know of anywhere please leave a comment!

Trust will spare you a post here which would leave most of you gagging or rolling your eyes or huffing in disgust at THAT lady who (OF COURSE) got pregnant after adopting and then tried to complain about it. other news I have to discuss a few pop culture items. Must do it, so let's go.

Roman Polanski
Look, ok, the dude essentially drugged and RAPED a 13-year-old girl (don't kid yourself, Whoopi Goldberg, it was rape because 13-year-old girls just don't have the capacity to consent to sex with a middle-aged man). I don't care if it was 30 days ago or 30 years ago...he did it and OH BY THE WAY he ADMITTED to it. He's guilty. And then he ran away. He ran away to avoid being punished for raping a 13-year-old girl.

If this was a priest who had committed this crime and gotten away with it for 30 years, or a stepfather, or an everyday average Joe trust me when I tell you Hollywood would be calling for blood. They would be all about how this person deserves to be punished, taking responsibility for their actions, punishing to the fullest extent of the law, and so forth. The fact that they want us all to "move on" and let it go for Roman Polanski because he is a brilliant director and has suffered by not being "allowed" back in the U.S. for 30 years...we should all be VERY angry at how these celebrities are patronizing us.

Not one of them would stick up for us if we were in that position. And their egos are so out of control they think we should let the rape of a child go unpunished because someone is talented? WHAT?! Roman Polanski hasn't suffered. First of all, he's allowed to come back to the U.S. anytime he wants. In fact, imagine how much simpler life would be if he would have just taken his punishment when it was given, served, and moved on. Come on back, Roman, and face the music anytime. We welcome you with open American Justice arms. Second of all, his work has NOT suffered by not making movies in Hollywood. Pretty sure it's been in the last, what, 15 years he won an Academy Award for directing a movie. He's a millionaire living in luxury in Europe and STILL winning American awards. He's NOT suffering.

I am appalled at anyone who thinks we should just "forget about it" and "move on". It's not like he can even claim innocence...he admitted it and ran away, people!

Jon Gosselin
Sorry, I can't stop talking about this complete and total scumbag. I stopped watching the show long ago, which is unfortunate because he has 8 of the cutest kids ever. He is ridiculous, total scum. And, look, I'm not saying Kate is all innocent victim here. She is whiny, witchy, and completely out of control (remember long before the divorce rumors even came about, there was talk of how she pushed everyone in her life including her family away because she didn't want them to take her money). But seriously, she hasn't gone out and worn Ed Hardy clothes while flaunting young girls and Hollywood loser dads on her arm.

Everytime I see that man's face I throw up a little in my mouth.

WHY, oh WHY are we continuing to make them stars? Disgusting, self-serving, and untalented. They bring nothing to society, we can't even claim they bring art and talent to the entertainment industry. I'm sick of hearing about them.

David Letterman
Sigh...I'm never surprised when I hear about things like this. But it never stops me from being disappointed.

Ok, I think that's it. Phew, I feel better already! I'm going to visit my grandparents this weekend with Colt, my mom and stepdad. John's staying here so wish me luck!


Jessica and Jeff Costa said...

HI Jessica. I read this blog.
It is private Angie writes it and her email is . I think she followe heres to hope so you might already know of her. Well she adopted a baby girl and bam 7 months later delivered another. Good luck.

LL said...

clapping hands!

Kate said...

I just want to say that I read this blog because I really enjoy knowing about you and your life and your family. I started reading you because of your adoption journey, but now I read it because it's *you*. So, if part of who you are is feeling emotional or concerned about having a baby after adopting or needing to have a moan about something regarding your pregnancy, then I'm happy to hear about it and maybe even try to help somehow.

I think that you have been so sensitive of the feelings of those of us who can't have children or who are going through the adoption process, and I really appreciate that. And because of that - because of how aware you are of the impact you write - I don't think anything you say will make me want to roll my eyes or huff in disgust.

But I don't speak for everyone, I know, and it can be a very painful topic.

Would you consider starting a blog about your pregnancy? And writing some of your concerns/excitements there?

Aaron and Angie said...

i haven't found anyone else either (which begs the question why everyone says this happens all the time). i'm just an e-mail away! hugs

KLTTX said...

I know I have read several blogs written by women who have gotten pregnant after adopting but none of them are in my reader. I'd suggest that you send a question in to the LFCA and ask Mel to post it for you. I bet you get some responses. Although I am in the opposite position as you I think I can understand your fears and concerns. Feel free to contact me too even though its not quite the same.

On the "celebrity" stuff - I agree 100%. I am appalled at the way people are coming to Roman Polanski's defense. Disgusting. Jon Gosslein's latest is that he stole all of the family money. Disgusting! And as I've posted on FB, I am not even sure who the Kardashians are but I am really tired of hearing about them and their exploits. Who cares. I feel better too.

Let me know next time you are in Dallas. If you have time, we can meet for dinner or lunch.

hope548 said...

I know the types of feelings you are going through and it is sort of new territory. Do you read OHN's blog? She conceived twice after adopting her oldest son, after going through multiple miscarriages. She would be a great source of info and support if you don't already read her:

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Katie said...

I just wanted to say that I found your blog through Ms. J tonight. I read your history, your FAMILY STORY, and I am so blessed to have done so.

Congratulations on your sweet Colt, congratulations on this newest baby boy. May God continue to bless you as He has done. I will be praying for your family.

Katie said...

I just wanted to say that I found your blog through Ms. J tonight. I read your history, your FAMILY STORY, and I am so blessed to have done so.

Congratulations on your sweet Colt, congratulations on this newest baby boy. May God continue to bless you as He has done. I will be praying for your family.